To my 39-year-old self:

To my 39-year-old self:
Hey. It’s me—Future You 🦋
I’m on the other side of that shit-storm of a divorce, and I wish I could give you the biggest hug and tell you what you desperately need to hear right now:
It is SO gonna be okay🥹
Nearly 4 years have passed. You’re happy. You’re healthy. You’re thriving. You 🩷 your life more than you can possibly fathom right now.
And guess what? Your kids are happy and healthy too. So is your ex.

Healing won’t be linear, so give yourself some grace. This next chapter is going to teach you more about yourself than you ever wanted to learn. 😂
It will also be the hardest mountain 🏔 you’ve ever climbed.
Lean on your friends.
Lean on your family.
Be vulnerable in therapy.
Ask for help. And when it hurts, don’t run from it.
You don’t get over hard shit. You can’t go around it or under it either.
You have to go through it.
And you will.

This heartache, confusion and fear is temporary. It’s one chapter in a very long story 📕
XOXO, Taya (Fabulous & 44 🤍)
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I decided to share this because friends of friends call me all the time when they’re contemplating or going through divorce. They’re scared. Overwhelmed. Sometimes completely frozen by fear.
And I always say the same thing:
Marriage is hard. Divorce is hard. Try to make your marriage work first.
But if your marriage is truly over, this is what I wish someone had said to me in 2022:
You are not a failure.
Your marriage was not a failure.
Nobody gets married thinking they’ll get divorced.
And a “broken home” is NOT a divorced home. A broken home is one filled with fighting, anger, resentment and walking on eggshells.
There are beautiful, healthy families that exist on the other side of divorce too.

👉🏼This isn’t me telling anyone to get divorced👈🏼
It’s me talking to the woman who already knows her marriage is over but is terrified of what her life—and her family—might look like on the other side.
You deserve to be happy.
And your kids deserve to see their parents happy—whether that’s together or apart.

So if you happen to be the woman who needed to hear this today, I’m sending you the biggest hug🫶🏼 it is SO gonna be ok🤍

Источник Instagram: tayadicarlo